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  1. How to Spot a Mental Health Crisis in Your Workplace

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    Can you spot the signs of mental illness in your workplace?

    With Mental Health Awareness Week starting on Monday 14th May, it’s great news that mental health issues are no longer viewed as extraordinary, as business leaders acknowledge the importance of good mental health in the workplace.

    It’s astonishing how many classifications of mental illness there are and even more surprising is how widespread the problem is. People we bump into every day can be managing a distressing mental health issue and most of us wouldn’t know it; such has been the stigma of mental illness for countless generations it has been swept under the rug as a source of shame for many sufferers.

    ‘Madness’ out in the open

    So how refreshing it is to hear people like Prince Harry, Adele, Catherine Zeta Jones, Ellie Goulding and countless others, talk so candidly about their mental health battles. Such openness from people who we assume have it all and have their lives ‘so together’ paves the way for the rest of us open up too. It also shows how mental health doesn’t discriminate – anyone can be affected by it.

    Do you have a mental health issue or does a colleague?

    If you manage or supervise staff or have responsibility for workplace wellbeing it is essential for you to be aware of mental health issues, and that means recognising your own problems as well as those within your team.

    Seen as a ‘slow-growing epidemic’ the number of people dealing with mental health concerns has increased by 10 per cent in the last 10 years and poor mental health is now the number one reason for staff absence; often related to worries about job security, finances and general uncertainty. In the UK between 2016/17, 12.5 million working days were lost due to work related stress, anxiety and depression.

    The top 10 workplace symptoms which may indicate a mental health issue in yourself or a colleague are:

    • 1. Stress and anxiety
    • 2. Anger and hostility towards customers and colleagues
    • 3. Physical and emotional exhaustion
    • 4. Difficulty being organised
    • 5. Depression and tiredness
    • 6. Low self-esteem and confidence
    • 7. Drug and alcohol addiction issues
    • 8. Sleep problems
    • 9. Increased absences
    • 10. Social withdrawal

    Such symptoms can also be indicators of high level mental illness including:

    • – Mania and bipolar disorders
    • – Body image issues including anorexia and bulimia
    • – Self-harming (e.g. cutting and burning)
    • – OCD and debilitating phobias
    • – Depressive psychosis (high level depression) and schizophrenia
    • – Suicide ideation (related to dealing with any of the above)

    Anyone with these serious mental health concerns should immediately be encouraged to see their GP for evaluation, counselling and support.

    Emotional Intelligence and Training to Build Resilience

    It is not right or even possible for an office manager or a member of Human Resources to act in a psychiatric capacity. However, there are proven and effective ways to mitigate mental health problems and to promote general mental wellbeing in your business and at home founded on best practice and good workplace values.

    My aim is to help you recognise mental health issues in your workplace and provide you with a range of effective resources for dealing with stress and anxiety, the two major components of all mental illness, and provide a template to help you create and sustain a positive learning and growth culture to promote wellbeing at work.

    I understand that Building Resilience is foundational to a healthy work environment, encouraging a happier and more productive workforce and team as well as dealing with conflicts through effective mediation.

    My courses provide expert training sessions with advice and guidance on managing stress and worry, using my unique Resilience Building Toolkit of resources that can be accessed and applied both at work and at home.

    Here’s a taster of what you will learn in my Building Resilience Masterclass

    • The psychology of stress and how to manage it
    • Triggers that activate unhelpful feelings
    • Building greater emotional awareness
    • A master toolkit of techniques, tools and tips for managing stress and building resilience
    • Strategies for staying calm in difficult situations
    • Bespoke case studies
    • Live demonstrations to show how to regain control
    • Personal action plan


    A group relaxation is available to close the session (Recorded on individual mobiles for future benefit).

    6 benefits of good mental health at work

    Because it’s a legal requirement for businesses to encourage mental health wellbeing in the workplace, it is important employers are involved with supporting employees with mental health problems.

    Providing mental health support at work has measurable benefits including:

    • 1. Meeting your duty of care and legal obligations as an employer
    • 2. Lowers absenteeism by building resilience to stress
    • 3. Reduces staff turnover and the cost of lost production and recruitment
    • 4. Nurtures open and honest communication with your team
    • 5. Creates a strong and positive workplace environment
    • 6. Increases business productivity and improves sales

    My half-day workplace wellbeing courses are designed to equip your managers with the tools to help staff throughout the business especially those with a latent or active mental health condition, as well as managing return to work.

    Contact me to find out how my workshops can work for your business, positively improving your team’s mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing

    Here’s what previous course attendees have said:

    Excellent. Loved all of it!  More please!

    Great strategies for coping with life in general.

    I know these techniques will help me when I am feeling stressed/anxious.

    Excellent facilitator – shame it was only a half day.

    A hands on approach, very helpful both personally and professionally.

    A fantastic insight into tools for dealing with stress.

    Fantastic session – Carol was amazing and quite inspirational.

    Brilliant session. The live demonstrations were powerful.

    CB Learning & Development has also won an excellent reputation from some of the best UK companies and here’s what they say about us.

    Visit my new website and discover a full range of inspiring courses tailored for personal and group training needs.


  2. Lack of trust in your workplace? Spot these 7 signs.

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    Suspicion and mistrust in the workplace

    Can you trust your colleagues and are you a trusted member of your team? Building trust in the workplace transforms how people work together, improving teamwork, staff retention and profitability.

    A lack of trust is one of the most difficult situations a manager has to deal with in an organisation. Broken trust can drastically affect a company’s operations, adversely affecting the bottom line.

    So how do you recognise it?

    7 Symptoms of Damaged Trust:

    1. Internal teams continually at odds with each other i.e. Sales and Customer Service teams arguing

    2. Individuals not getting along; people separating out into cliques and factions

    3. An atmosphere of suspicion and tension, whispering by the coffee machine and furtive chats in corridors

    4. Leadership team hiding inside offices with doors closed and blinds down (Ivory Tower syndrome)

    5. Bosses failing to openly share their thoughts and concerns

    6. Staff treading on eggshells with racing thoughts of suspicion or anxiety about colleagues

    7. Top performers overwhelmed with work, too fearful to delegate in case work isn’t done correctly.

    Commonly, behaviours like these can be nailed to a breakdown in trust and a fear someone will fail to perform or is unable or unwilling to express honest views and concerns.

    Mistrust is a reasonable reaction to feeling betrayed or abandoned in the workplace, resulting in self-doubt, anger and anxiety. It can happen at any level in an organisation, from shop floor to boardroom, and prevents otherwise productive teams working harmoniously, culminating in poor morale, lower productivity, increased staff turnover, and a toxic work environment.


    The benefits of creating trust in the workplace

    We all know what trust feels like, but do you know what trust looks like? One of my most popular workshops is how to gain, sustain and maintain Trust in the Workplace.

    You will see the visible results of applying tried and tested strategies to create trust throughout your business and to help you achieve the following outcomes

    1. Higher levels of collaboration between individuals and departments

    2. Effective execution of business strategy

    3. Increased commitment and loyalty, lower staff turnover

    4. Higher performing teams who are more creative

    5. More adventurous attitudes inclined towards greater participation and innovation

    6. An atmosphere where cooperation and loyalty is engendered

    When people trust each other they make important evaluations at a subconscious level:

    You believe in each other’s sincerity. Honesty in communication comes across in what people say and how they act upon it, giving their words credibility. Can people ‘trust’ what you say?

    You view each other as reliable. Dedication to meeting commitments in a timely manner is proof of reliability. Doing what you say you’ll do builds confidence.

    You are seen as competent. As confidence builds so competence is established as you prove you can do what you say you will do using your skill, knowledge, and resources.

    My workshops help individuals and teams who feel hurt or injured to rebuild trust through developing a culture founded on sincerity, reliability, and competence.


    8 Strategies include:

    1. Diagnosing and repairing trust in yourself and others.

    2. Building Resilience to stress and uncertainty

    3. Helping you becoming self-aware of behaviours that cause mistrust and destroy other people’s confidence in you.

    4. Earning and giving trust. Develop a pattern of consistent and desired behaviours and attitudes in yourself and others.

    5. Recognising and overcoming bureaucratic methods of control which undermine trust and kill inspiration

    6. Adopting a pattern of honesty and openness in your language

    7. Relinquishing micro-management and effective delegation methods to truly inspire your team.

    8. Creating mutual flows of trust between leadership and staff, earning trust and giving trust.

    If you feel your office environment has an atmosphere of distrust, fear and suspicion, it’s time to talk.

    Book now and get the best from your team


    Is your team happy and engaged? Do you want motivated staff with improved morale and increased productivity? Contact me to find out how my Trust Building workshops can positively transform your whole team and improve the productivity and atmosphere of your workplace.

    Or visit my new website and discover a wide range of inspiring courses tailored to your business and personal development needs.

    CB Learning & Development has won an excellent reputation from some of the best UK companies and here’s what they say about us.


  3. The Best Teachers Build Resilience into their Own Curriculum

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    Teachers need to build resilience to stress

    Teachers are having to handle unprecedented levels of stress professionally and personally. Building Resilience is key to managing stress effectively.

    Teaching. It has to be one of the toughest and most stressful jobs out there; on a par with working in social services or the police force.

    The confrontations police officers fear most often involve unruly children, particularly teenagers who can react impulsively and irrationally; escalating a minor quarrel into a perfect storm of hot-headed trouble.

    But imagine having to deal with a classroom full of noisy young children or hormonal teens, five days a week. For teachers, managing difficult students is just one component of a broad range of responsibilities and pressures unique to education.

    The workload on teachers is colossal, as well as constant performance scrutiny – the list below highlights just 12 stresses teachers deal with; it makes the role of chief executive of your average plc look like child’s play.

    • 1. Lesson planning
    • 2. Monitoring and managing changes in curriculum
    • 3. Classroom management and discipline
    • 4. Dealing with difficult students / difficult classes
    • 5. Teacher’s evaluation and performance
    • 6. Ofsted inspections and new appraisal systems
    • 7. Supervising trainees
    • 8. Organising extracurricular activity and insurances
    • 9. Taking work home and homework marking
    • 10. Pressure from parents and school governors
    • 11. Job uncertainty
    • 12. Lack of administrative support etc. etc.

    Considering all of the above, as well as dealing with pupils from challenging environments where addiction, violence, poverty, divorce, lack of discipline and low aspirations are rife; means many teachers are barely coping.

    Building Resilience in the classroom is as important it is in the boardroom

    To operate effectively, teachers must be composed, healthy and motivated. Since 1993 I have worked with educators and teachers and senior managers to help them achieve this through a range of bespoke training and Resilience Building Courses in Newcastle, Sunderland, Northumberland and County Durham.

    The courses have been developed to help teachers regain confidence to think and teach at their best, improving them professionally and personally; reducing anxiety and insomnia, helping their preparation and delivery, with enhanced class dynamics, better relationships with staff and pupils as well as helping them manage work and home life.

    If you’re a teacher with three or more of these 10 classic stress symptoms we need to talk:


    • 1. Physical, then emotional, exhaustion
    • 2. Short fuses—impatience, irritability, and anger—with students and colleagues
    • 3. Repression of feelings
    • 4. Depression and lethargy
    • 5. General lack of resilience
    • 6. More frequent absences
    • 7. No sense of humour
    • 8. Difficulty being organised
    • 9. No time to listen to anyone
    • 10. Frequent illness

    Sound familiar?

    A BBC survey in 2015 polled 3,500 members of the NASUWT teaching union where almost half reported they’d seen a doctor because of work-related mental or physical health problems. (

    Teachers hate to let people down, will often go into work when they are sick and typically won’t admit they’re struggling with workload or a class. They also often push personal and family problems to the back of their mind and ignore their own needs as the internal pressures build. It’s why so many teachers get sick during the holidays.

    Practical strategies, tools and coping mechanisms for educators

    Stress generates emotional reactions, causing turmoil which results in performance ‘blocks’. My courses help you learn how to build internal strength by changing your mental, physical and emotional responses to stressful situations, remaining calm and more positive. After all, you can’t hope to manage pupils properly if you can’t effectively look after yourself.

    I have designed a unique Resilience Toolkit to help you generate positive energy and helpful responses to daily challenges, altering the physiological impact of stress. It enables you to adapt to adversity with tools to power performance and personal growth. Regular use of these tools will not only help manage stress: they will help change the whole school environment for the better.

    Here’s a taster of what you will learn in my Building Resilience Masterclass


    • The psychology of stress and how to manage it
    • Triggers that activate unhelpful feelings
    • Building greater emotional awareness
    • A master toolkit of techniques, tools and tips for managing stress and building resilience
    • Strategies for staying calm in difficult situations
    • Bespoke case studies
    • Demonstrations to show how to regain control
    • Personal action plan


     A group relaxation is available to close the session (Recorded on individual mobiles for future benefit).

    Here’s what previous course attendees have said:

    Excellent. Loved all of it!  More please!

    I know these techniques will help me when I am feeling stressed/anxious.

    Excellent facilitator – shame it was only a half day.

    A hands on approach, very helpful both personally and professionally.

    A fantastic insight into tools for dealing with stress.

    Fantastic session – Carol was amazing and quite inspirational.

    Great strategies for coping with life in general.

    Brilliant session. The demonstrations were powerful.

    I wish all of my trainers were as organised and effective as those from CB Learning & Development.  It makes my job so much easier knowing we can trust you’ll deliver on all aspects of the programme so professionally.

    Book now to help your teaching staff and your pupils

    If you’re a Head Teacher, Principal or Deputy Head who understands the benefits of staff welfare, you must tackle stress through prevention rather than management. Teachers and Support Staff will benefit from this motivational course to improve morale, reduce anxiety and increase confidence.

    Contact me to find out how Resilience Training can work for your school, positively improving your team’s mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, as well as transforming the learning environment for pupils.

    Visit my new website and discover a full range of inspiring courses tailored for personal and group training needs.

    CB Learning & Development has also won an excellent reputation from some of the best UK companies and here’s what they say about us.

  4. Resilience Building. What’s in it for your business?

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    Building Resilience is key to handling waves of stress and dealing with difficult life events at work and at home.


    To operate effectively, people must be happy, healthy and motivated in their job. I work with businesses to achieve this.

    In recent weeks I’ve had the privilege of meeting remarkable people of all ages and job descriptions attending my unique Building Resilience Corporate Courses throughout Newcastle, Northumberland and County Durham.

    Groups included council employees and Private Sector businesses, from apprentices just entering the world of work to people approaching retirement; very distinct profiles with different experiences and expectations.

    Noticeably a ‘common denominator’ of stress was present throughout all age groups and genders, indiscriminately affecting everyone to some degree, with confidence issues, anxiety, insomnia, irritability, physical and mental exhaustion and absenteeism symptomatic.

    The positive feedback from the courses was overwhelming. People thanked me personally for providing the tools and support they needed to transform their mental and physical health both at work and at home.

    What’s your stress-busting strategy?

    There are many ways to manage stress effectively, but often our automatic responses are the worst ways to cope, such as the emotional bandages of drinking and smoking, over-eating (or not eating at all), and ignoring exercise; all compounding the negative health impacts of stress.

    Resilience is key, and it’s not how much you have it’s how you build resilience that matters. It’s a set of skills you can work on throughout your life, preparing them in advance and applying them when needed.

    You build resilience over time by changing how you process negative events. You learn to find appreciation in the negative and change it to a positive, recognising the huge learning potential of difficulties and counting your blessings; expressing gratitude for health, home, friends and family, food on the table and so on.

    Seven big ideas in my toolkit

    My Resilience Toolkit is designed to help individuals approach challenges by thinking differently. It will help your team apply new ways of thinking to make them engaged, fulfilled, less stressed and more productive. It helps personally too with a philosophy that extends throughout all areas of life.

    Seven key themes include:

    1 Embracing change – Instead of running from a difficult situation or challenge, grasping it as an opportunity for adapting, learning and self-development.

    2 Taking action – Action is the enemy of stress. Working on solutions to challenges to put you in control, rather than letting situations control you.

    3 Being positive about abilities – Reminding yourself about your strengths and achievements to power you through the current challenge, viewing setbacks as temporary and overcome-able.

    4 Setting orderly goals – Brainstorming solutions, and breaking them down into manageable steps.

    5 Developing a strong social network – Sharing feelings with colleagues, friends and family to provide vital support, team-inspired ideas and solutions.

    6 Minding your language – Rephrasing negative statements with positive speech, developing dialogue that motivates and inspires.

    7 Killing self-defeating thoughts – Developing positive thinking; not ignoring reality in favour of happy thoughts, but taking a proactive approach to life, finding effective ways to resolve conflict and explore creative solutions to problems.

    Book now and get the best from your team

    Is your team happy and engaged? Do you want motivated staff with improved morale and increased productivity? Contact me to find out how Resilience Training can work for you, positively transforming your whole team’s mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, and improving the productivity and atmosphere of your workplace for the better.

    Visit my new website and discover a range of inspiring courses which will be tailored to your needs.

    CB Learning & Development has won an excellent reputation from some of the best UK companies and here’s what they say about us.



  5. Employee Appraisals: Five Questions Every Manager Should Ask

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    Professionally executed Performance Reviews help your business save thousands of pounds and help retain great staff loyal to your organisation

    1. Do you know how much Staff Appraisals cost your organisation?

    There is always a cost to effective management of the workforce but do you know that it’s estimated that Performance Reviews cost £180 per person (based on an average rate of £40 for a manager and £20 per employee for 3 hours each of the manager’s and employee’s time). That’s a whopping £27000 for a business with two hundred staff, not to mention software/IT costs and HR resources to orchestrate the process.

    Appraisals are designed to improve your business, but it’s rare for bosses to know how to measure their impact let alone analyse the cost-benefits. Most managers will measure participation, adherence to guidelines, and completion of documentation and think, “Job done!”

    2. Are shoddy appraisals demoralising my staff?

    Infamously known as the “rank and yank” system, appraisals have been used by some managers to rank employees, then sack the bottom 10% of under-performers. This is not something that I would recommend and not how appraisals should be used – as such the process is feared, especially when the appraisal is conducted using a set of random and subjective measures, rather than giving constructive feedback and encouragement. 

    3. Am I doing the process right?

    Performance reviews should be a process focused on employee goals in line with the organisation’s strategy, rather than their grades. Indeed, reviewing managers’ performance in how appraisals are undertaken is becoming a worry for managers themselves. Why is this? Because the ability to retain critical talent is just as important as attracting talent to an organisation in the first place, and ineffective appraisals reflect badly on a manager’s ability to do this. So if you’re responsible, watch out.

    4. How do I motivate a non performing staff member?

     It’s more expensive and time consuming to employ a new member of staff than to improve the performance of an existing one, so knowing how to turn poor performance around is key.

    When managers approach appraisals from a negative stance they erode morale, so being a coach to your team rather than just a critic and focusing on the future rather than the past is crucial for motivating the team. For every negative, there should be three or four positives. Appraisals must be a platform to give praise and say well done where it’s merited.

    5. How Can ‘Emotional Intelligence’ benefit my appraisals process?

    Emotional Intelligence or EI is the ability to make positive choices based on pinpointing, understanding and managing your own feelings and those of your team. It’s the best way to get the most from your staff.

    Manage Conflict

    It’s my opinion which is based on experience that if an organisation wants to lift itself from averagely successful to excellent it needs to address how well the people in the business work together. This is the value of Emotional Intelligence.

    Some great teams can be destroyed because a conflict isn’t addressed. It’s why effective and timely Mediation is vital.

    Listen Constructively

    Appraisals are an opportunity for staff to speak and for you to listen.

    Is that conflict resolved? Has someone got worries about gaps in abilities and training? Does someone feel challenged and need support? Is a team member demotivated through lack of development or organisational change?

    You must drill down to recognise performance issues as well as reward talent and nurture further success. Appraisals are your opportunity to set targets and provide realistic individual goals, laying the right framework to measure their success in the next review or one-to-one.

    The Ninja Approach to EI

    There is an art to bringing out great individual competencies and creating high achieving, happy staff. My Ninja approach focuses on Emotional Intelligence for developing individuals and teams and fuels motivation with a methodology of helping people self-improve for a motivated and dedicated workforce.

    If you’re in need of an innovative solution to Performance Management it’s time we talked.

  6. Dynamic NEW Corporate Courses (with added Ninja)

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    Ninja Woman

    Is your Corporate Training packing punch? CBLD Ltd delivers a rare Ninja element that must be experienced.

    Remember that rare School Assembly when someone really interesting visited, transforming yawns to smiles, with everyone engaged and animated, as pupils and teachers hung on every inspirational word and you could feel the buzz in the room? Rare indeed.

    The adult version of School Assembly is Corporate Training: Everyone’s expected to attend to hear important messages and to take an occasional certificate home.

    Like your average School Assembly, many corporate training courses are uninspiring; a ‘need to do’ item on a tick-list, rather than a ‘want to do’ item on a bucket list.

    There’s some solid courses out there, but do you know the best from the rest?

    My corporate training programmes in 2018/19* available through Carol Barwick Learning and Development (CBLD) deliver a surprisingly different approach to training with a unique Ninja element. I have been described as a Ninja mind coach for good reason!

    I am passionate about blending behaviours with the topic, making training a martial art form with programmes designed to help you and your team upskill personally as well as deliver excellent results for your business.

    Toolkit for life

    I work nationally with companies and individuals to give them the right tools and techniques to identify, manage and control the issues unique to them. My Resilience Toolkit, for example inspires positive action and transforms the way you live and work.  It’s this integration with regular training that makes the delivery distinctive:

    Don’t just take my word for it – here’s what our customers say:

    “Life changing, thank you!”

    “Can’t believe what I witnessed during the demonstrations. To get results like that in minutes. WOW!!”

    “Loved your sense of humour and examples”

    “A very different approach”

    “Would definitely recommend this training to others”

    “Best course I’ve been on”

    “Brilliant – Can we have Carol back for a longer session please?”

    Refreshing and Original

    Visit my new website and discover a range of inspiring courses which will be tailored to your needs.

    CBLD Ltd has won an excellent reputation from some of the best UK companies and here’s what they say about us.

    It’s your time to be surprised

    Remember, it doesn’t cost any more to get a great Corporate Training Course over a mediocre one, but it will make all the difference to you.

    Isn’t it time you experienced the Ninja element for yourself?

    Get in touch to find out more.

  7. New Year’s Resolution

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    January is a great time to reflect and begin new habits such as reducing the alcohol we drink or increasing the healthy food we eat. We should be improving our mental wellbeing, too.

    It can be easy to rush through life without stopping to notice much. Paying more attention to the present moment – to your own thoughts and feelings, and to the world around you – can improve your mental wellbeing.

    according to research there are five things we can do that will really help to boost our mental wellbeing, they are:

    Connect – connect with the people around you: your family, friends, colleagues and neighbours. Spend time developing these relationships. Learn more in Connect for mental wellbeing.

    Be active – you don’t have to go to the gym. Take a walk, go cycling or play a game of football. Find an activity that you enjoy and make it a part of your life. Learn more in Get active for mental wellbeing.

    Keep learning – learning new skills can give you a sense of achievement and a new confidence. So why not sign up for that cooking course, start learning to play a musical instrument, or figure out how to fix your bike? Find out more in Learn for mental wellbeing.

    Give to others – even the smallest act can count whether it’s a smile, a thank you or a kind word. Larger acts, such as volunteering at your local community centre, can improve your mental wellbeing and help you build new social networks. Learn more in Give for mental wellbeing.

    Be mindful – be more aware of the present moment, including your thoughts and feelings, your body and the world around you. Some people call this awareness “mindfulness”. It can positively change the way you feel about life and how you approach challenges. Learn more in Mindfulness for mental wellbeing.

    Why not give these five things a go and see what a difference they can make to your everyday life. If you’d like to find out more about the work I do to help people improve their quality of life visit my website

    Information shared from NHS Choices.

  8. What value should be placed on Business Awards?

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    We all know there is no such thing as a free lunch – so is there such a thing as free PR?

    Recently I was contacted by an unfamiliar business publication familiar who said I’d been nominated for an award and had already reached the short listing stage of the competition. How exciting I thought – wondering who had been kind enough to nominate me and what had they said about me to beat off my some of my competitors!

    I duly followed the instructions in the email and completed all the necessary information to go forward to the judges. This took a couple of hours, ensuring I included evidence of the quality of my work.

    Within a few days a received a congratulatory email telling me I’d won!  I was the Hypnotherapist of the Year – Tyne and Wear. The subsequent emails let me know how I could publicise this amazing achievement in their publication for a variety of costs.  As a winner of this prestigious award I would get a free press release which could be used on my website which included links to their publication and a logo I could use should I wish to do so.

    I sought advice from a close friend, who happens to be a marketing professional who has won awards from both the CIM and the CIPR. To say she was surprised by this approach from a publication would be an understatement. “It’s paid for advertising” she said, “pop it on Twitter if you must and let’s get on with growing the business!”

    The emails kept coming from the aforesaid publication offering reduced advertising rates to promote my achievement in their competition for their publication – offers I did not take up. I felt a bit disappointed after my hopes had been raised by the nomination and, of course, winning the award. I never found out who had nominated me despite asking for this information, as I would liked to have thanked them personally.

    Then, as if to restore my faith in the media, I receive an email from one of the many websites my companies are registered with telling me that through client feedback I am now rated one of the TOP 3 in Newcastle. Not to be taken in again I do my research this time and sure enough there is evidence that my clients have been so pleased with the outcomes of the work we have done together that they have taken the time to give their feedback completely unprompted by me!  I’m given access to some hints and tips on how to use this latest accolade and a free logo I can use on my website – RESULT J

    So here it is displayed in all its glory.

    It’s on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn and my website.

    So the next time I receive an email telling me I’ve won something I knew nothing about I will treat it with caution and do my research before I spend an afternoon completing forms which in the end is only going to cost me money and time that would be better spent doing something else.





  9. Sexual Abuse – and how to deal with it in a positive way

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    The recent allegations of sexual abuse in the media have highlighted an endemic practice which goes back decades and not just linked to football, or sport in general c04pbcr. We’ve witnessed the emotional impact of this illegal behaviour demonstrated many times over the last few weeks on TV by the brave footballers who cannot keep silent any longer and have brought to the notice of the public and the statutory bodies and we must all now take note.
    In my experience of supporting the victims of abuse, at my private clinic in Jesmond, it is clear that this appalling behaviour has catastrophic and long term impact. In the case of footballers these perpetrators literally stole their dreams!
    The impact of this touches every aspect of their lives; because the physical, mental and emotional abuse affects future relationships. In general, those abused often display both anger and trust issues in their everyday behaviour. They can also have the burden of guilt and shame compounded by feelings of worthlessness.
    The challenges that the recent allegations have highlighted in terms of the bravery shown by these men cannot be under estimated. They have, however, taken the first and biggest step on the road to recovery in seeking help. The journey to recovery is individual and therefore the approach, tools and techniques I use reflect this. First and foremost it is key for me to establish trust.

    As a professional working with a supporting people who have been abused I was asked by BBC Radio Newcastle take part in a discussion about this matter as more stories unfold and more men are being brave enough to come forward and speak about their experiences

    Professional help is available and if this applies to you or someone you know I urge you to take action.

    Sports hypnotherapy can help you optimise your performance in competitive sports
    Professional help is available and if this applies to you or someone you know I urge you to take action.

  10. Realistic goals invigorate. Unrealistic expectations demotivate.

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    We all nurture fantasies about the future and how it might be. Which teenager hasn’t imagined themselves being a famous popstar or actor with a crowd of fans queuing to get their autograph? More topically, as Rio 2016 ends some young people will imagine what life would be like as an international sports stars like Mo Farah or Laura Trott.

    It’s vital to have dreams and goals, but by the same token, we have to be careful to ensure they are realistic and specific. Think some of the talentless numpties on X-Factor who believe they can sing. You may well ask how did they get the idea they had a skill worth flaunting. Before we set goals for ourselves we have to recognise our limitations as well as talents and strengths. Just to say ‘anything is possible’ is a woolly belief if you haven’t got the raw materials to start with. Sacrifice, time and energy are required to build a foundation to launch your goals.

    That’s what this week’s blog is about. To act as an encouragement to those with specific goals and to help nurture ambition and drive in others who currently lack direction.

    Anything is possible

    Anything is possible if you put your mind to it. Drive and determination create achievement and results. Some people have wild dreams that are not achievable because action doesn’t start when the dreaming stops. Conversely, others harbour limiting beliefs and their lack of confidence keeps them fixed. If your dreams are too small just raise the bar and give yourself something more ambitious to aim at – something your subconscious mind can latch on to.

    The Olympic Mindset

    Consider the Olympics. Winning gold means you are better than anyone else in the world at your game which requires believe in your ability to achieve this level of sporting achievement.  I call this the Olympic Mindset and it can keep you on point and raise your bar higher, especially on those days when you feel like you are wrestling jelly. To a medal winner, four years of dedicated slog for those glorious minutes at the Olympics is totally worth it. Your goal may not be an Olympic medal, but it could be a unique achievement for you, even when it is a challenge to attain.

    The Olympic Mindset is something we can all attain.

    There’s real benefit in developing an Olympic Mindset. Having a winning mentality is foundational to being successful in your endeavours and you can easily attain it if you are prepared to put in the effort.

    Inspired by Roger

    Back in the 1950s a young Englishman, Roger Bannister, had a belief he could run a mile in under four minutes, in spite of a common belief it was physically impossible (for thousands of years people had tried and failed). Then on May 6, 1954, Bannister ran the distance in 3:59.4.  As part of his training, he visualised this achievement which created a sense of certainty in his mind and body.

    Within a year after Bannister’s achievement, someone else ran a mile in under 4 minutes. Then others followed, and now it’s routine because the barrier had been broken.

    What do you need to succeed?

    Like Roger, you need vision, tenacity, focus and energy to achieve your goal. If you have a clearly-defined purpose you can build towards achieving it and when you dedicate yourself to the certainty of accomplishing your vision, you’ll more than likely achieve it. Even if you fail trying, you still gain knowledge, strength and understanding in the pursuit. People achieve things by working hard at them, taking risks, and learning from the results. Research shows that if you expect to fail, you will have a higher chance of it becoming your reality.

    Hypnotherapy help for motivation

    In my Newcastle hypnotherapy practice, many clients come to me for help in getting their mojo back, especially after one of life’s big confidence knocks – relationship problems; divorce; redundancy or ill health. Often there are additional issues to contend with too such as weight gain, low self-esteem and addiction problems. That’s when things can get a bit overwhelming and I help them reach specific goals by slicing their vision for success down into bite size chunks.

    Sometimes a client may feel directionless and need help in regaining a vision of success for their life. If motivation wanes, I help them revisit their goal and reconnect them with the original emotions and feelings that gave them that passion and drive to do it in the first place.

    Make it real

    Do you have a goal? Write it down and be very specific to make it a tangible goal you can work towards.   The more you can hang your hat on it the more real your vision becomes. It’s motivational to announce your goal to friends and family. Sharing your vision of – losing weight, getting fit, stopping smoking, running a marathon is powerful, because the incentive is set to not let them or yourself down, especially on the tough days.

    Future pacing

    If you need a encouragement, just imagine what your vision will be like when you achieve it.  Step into that vision and experience the feeling of accomplishment; the taste of success, the celebrations! In NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) we call this future pacing and it helps to keep you on track of your goals when the going gets tough.

    Little Treats

    Those bite sized chunks I talked about earlier can also be bite-sized rewards as you make steady progress towards your goal. A pamper-day, a meal out, a new item of clothing, a weekend away. I believe in giving yourself rewards for achieving certain milestones in your vision. This way, your final goal becomes more manageable.

    Steer your own course

    Life isn’t always fair and the sooner you expect that, the sooner you can take actions that will actually make a difference. If you are lacking motivation and need help getting that Olympic Mindset, contact me. With a wee bit of assistance you can turn opportunity into reality.  Put in the hard work, and reap your reward.

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