Realistic goals invigorate. Unrealistic expectations demotivate.
We all nurture fantasies about the future and how it might be. Which teenager hasn’t imagined themselves being a famous popstar or actor with a crowd of fans queuing to get their autograph? More topically, as Rio 2016 ends some young people will imagine what life would be like as an international sports stars like Mo Farah or Laura Trott.
It’s vital to have dreams and goals, but by the same token, we have to be careful to ensure they are realistic and specific. Think some of the talentless numpties on X-Factor who believe they can sing. You may well ask how did they get the idea they had a skill worth flaunting. Before we set goals for ourselves we have to recognise our limitations as well as talents and strengths. Just to say ‘anything is possible’ is a woolly belief if you haven’t got the raw materials to start with. Sacrifice, time and energy are required to build a foundation to launch your goals.
That’s what this week’s blog is about. To act as an encouragement to those with specific goals and to help nurture ambition and drive in others who currently lack direction.
Anything is possible
Anything is possible if you put your mind to it. Drive and determination create achievement and results. Some people have wild dreams that are not achievable because action doesn’t start when the dreaming stops. Conversely, others harbour limiting beliefs and their lack of confidence keeps them fixed. If your dreams are too small just raise the bar and give yourself something more ambitious to aim at – something your subconscious mind can latch on to.
The Olympic Mindset
Consider the Olympics. Winning gold means you are better than anyone else in the world at your game which requires believe in your ability to achieve this level of sporting achievement. I call this the Olympic Mindset and it can keep you on point and raise your bar higher, especially on those days when you feel like you are wrestling jelly. To a medal winner, four years of dedicated slog for those glorious minutes at the Olympics is totally worth it. Your goal may not be an Olympic medal, but it could be a unique achievement for you, even when it is a challenge to attain.
Inspired by Roger
Back in the 1950s a young Englishman, Roger Bannister, had a belief he could run a mile in under four minutes, in spite of a common belief it was physically impossible (for thousands of years people had tried and failed). Then on May 6, 1954, Bannister ran the distance in 3:59.4. As part of his training, he visualised this achievement which created a sense of certainty in his mind and body.
Within a year after Bannister’s achievement, someone else ran a mile in under 4 minutes. Then others followed, and now it’s routine because the barrier had been broken.
What do you need to succeed?
Like Roger, you need vision, tenacity, focus and energy to achieve your goal. If you have a clearly-defined purpose you can build towards achieving it and when you dedicate yourself to the certainty of accomplishing your vision, you’ll more than likely achieve it. Even if you fail trying, you still gain knowledge, strength and understanding in the pursuit. People achieve things by working hard at them, taking risks, and learning from the results. Research shows that if you expect to fail, you will have a higher chance of it becoming your reality.
Hypnotherapy help for motivation
In my Newcastle hypnotherapy practice, many clients come to me for help in getting their mojo back, especially after one of life’s big confidence knocks – relationship problems; divorce; redundancy or ill health. Often there are additional issues to contend with too such as weight gain, low self-esteem and addiction problems. That’s when things can get a bit overwhelming and I help them reach specific goals by slicing their vision for success down into bite size chunks.
Sometimes a client may feel directionless and need help in regaining a vision of success for their life. If motivation wanes, I help them revisit their goal and reconnect them with the original emotions and feelings that gave them that passion and drive to do it in the first place.
Make it real
Do you have a goal? Write it down and be very specific to make it a tangible goal you can work towards. The more you can hang your hat on it the more real your vision becomes. It’s motivational to announce your goal to friends and family. Sharing your vision of – losing weight, getting fit, stopping smoking, running a marathon is powerful, because the incentive is set to not let them or yourself down, especially on the tough days.
If you need a encouragement, just imagine what your vision will be like when you achieve it. Step into that vision and experience the feeling of accomplishment; the taste of success, the celebrations! In NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) we call this future pacing and it helps to keep you on track of your goals when the going gets tough.
Those bite sized chunks I talked about earlier can also be bite-sized rewards as you make steady progress towards your goal. A pamper-day, a meal out, a new item of clothing, a weekend away. I believe in giving yourself rewards for achieving certain milestones in your vision. This way, your final goal becomes more manageable.
Steer your own course
Life isn’t always fair and the sooner you expect that, the sooner you can take actions that will actually make a difference. If you are lacking motivation and need help getting that Olympic Mindset, contact me. With a wee bit of assistance you can turn opportunity into reality. Put in the hard work, and reap your reward.
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